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Monday, February 28, 2011
Resolve Event 3.24.11 Attorneys and Contracts in Egg and Embryo Donation: What You Need to Know
Egg Donor Seminar
New York, New York
Attorneys and Contracts in Egg and Embryo Donation: What You Need to Know
Featuring Reproductive Law Attorneys Amy Demma, PC and Elizabeth Swire Falker, Esq.
Thursday, March 24, 2011 from 6:00PM to 8:00PM
Location: Bis.Co.Latte Cafe, 667 10th Avenue (Corner of 47th and 10th Avenue), New York, NY
Are you considering or already pursuing egg or embryo donation as a family building option? Are you curious about the benefits of a direct contact with your donor, even if the donor is anonymous? RESOLVE presents an evening of private discussion and lite fare with two reproductive law attorneys and experts, Amy Demma and Elizabeth Swire Falker, as they talk about the importance of donor contracts in a casual and warm cafe environment.
Biscotti, coffee, fruit, cheese and sparkling water will be served. Bis.Co.Latte Cafe was recently featured on NYU's Doctor Radio for its healthy menu.
This is a free event. Maximum registration is for 20 people only.
For more information, please contact Amy Demma, Esq, Law Offices of Amy Demma, PC, at amy@lawofficesofammydemma.com or http://www.lawofficesofamydemma.com or Elizabeth Swire Falker, Esq, PC, The Stork Lawyer® at liz@storklawyer.com or http://www.storklawyer.com.
http://familybuilding.resolve.org/site/Calendar/457135900?view=Detail&id=39961
New York, New York
Attorneys and Contracts in Egg and Embryo Donation: What You Need to Know
Featuring Reproductive Law Attorneys Amy Demma, PC and Elizabeth Swire Falker, Esq.
Thursday, March 24, 2011 from 6:00PM to 8:00PM
Location: Bis.Co.Latte Cafe, 667 10th Avenue (Corner of 47th and 10th Avenue), New York, NY
Are you considering or already pursuing egg or embryo donation as a family building option? Are you curious about the benefits of a direct contact with your donor, even if the donor is anonymous? RESOLVE presents an evening of private discussion and lite fare with two reproductive law attorneys and experts, Amy Demma and Elizabeth Swire Falker, as they talk about the importance of donor contracts in a casual and warm cafe environment.
Biscotti, coffee, fruit, cheese and sparkling water will be served. Bis.Co.Latte Cafe was recently featured on NYU's Doctor Radio for its healthy menu.
This is a free event. Maximum registration is for 20 people only.
For more information, please contact Amy Demma, Esq, Law Offices of Amy Demma, PC, at amy@lawofficesofammydemma.com or http://www.lawofficesofamydemma.com or Elizabeth Swire Falker, Esq, PC, The Stork Lawyer® at liz@storklawyer.com or http://www.storklawyer.com.
http://familybuilding.resolve.org/site/Calendar/457135900?view=Detail&id=39961
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Family Stories Workshop Talking to Children about Donor Origins Date Saturday April 2, 2011
In Montclair NJ, Easily Accessible By Bus and Train from NYC, please contact judykottick@comcast.net for more information about this workshop.
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
Designer Babies for the general population and a Celebrity Battling Infertility
Anyone else catch the irony in the 2 articles below? They are from the same day,the same planet,the same century!
Is the reporter in Charlotte SC that narrow-minded to think they can't get anyone to read about infertility and ordinary people seeking specific criteria in an egg donor without it being "a designer baby". Its usually celebrities or the obviously-too-rich-and-selfish who are tied to that antiquated terminology.
Its long been known that Nicole Kidman has had infertility issues. I'm so glad she has chosen to handle her situation with class and dignity and that ABC news headline treats her as a human being with feelings, not just (and so much more important than) her celebrity status.
Still,if she's being honest and open about using an egg donor and gestational carrier, I'm very pleased that she could be our spokesperson. Its not like she needs another award or to endorse some other product,right?
So, thanks Nicole and Keith and congratulations. May you and your family enjoy only health and happiness always in welcoming your new baby!
Sincerely,
Sara Axel
Is the reporter in Charlotte SC that narrow-minded to think they can't get anyone to read about infertility and ordinary people seeking specific criteria in an egg donor without it being "a designer baby". Its usually celebrities or the obviously-too-rich-and-selfish who are tied to that antiquated terminology.
Its long been known that Nicole Kidman has had infertility issues. I'm so glad she has chosen to handle her situation with class and dignity and that ABC news headline treats her as a human being with feelings, not just (and so much more important than) her celebrity status.
Still,if she's being honest and open about using an egg donor and gestational carrier, I'm very pleased that she could be our spokesperson. Its not like she needs another award or to endorse some other product,right?
So, thanks Nicole and Keith and congratulations. May you and your family enjoy only health and happiness always in welcoming your new baby!
Sincerely,
Sara Axel
Monday, February 21, 2011
MODEL OF an Informed Consent DOC for Egg Donors Provided by NY State
This is an abbreviated model form by the NYS DOH TASK FORCE ON HEALTH REGULATIONS after the Ads and before the actual donation takes place.
http://www.health.ny.gov/regulations/task_force/consumers/docs/informed_consent_for_egg_donors_form.pdf
Here are some highlights of the items that are covered:
Program’s SART Name and Number
∗INFORMED CONSENT FOR EGG DONORS
You are agreeing to undergo a cycle of egg donation at [program’s SART name]. Do
not sign this document if you have not received all of the information listed below or
have not met with your physician to discuss the information. Do not allow the donation
cycle to begin until after you have given your consent by signing this document.
The SCREENING PROCESS
A DESCRIPTION of the PROCEDURES for egg donation.
The RISKS of taking THE DRUGS ie OVARIAN HYPERSTIMULATION – AND information about the SYMPTOMS AND CONSEQUENCES of ovarian hyperstimulation
Your CHANCES of developing ovarian hyperstimulation from taking drugs to induce ovulation
AND the NUMBER OF EGGS the program plans to produce by stimulating your ovaries with drugs.
The process of REMOVING EGGS from your body AND any other problems that might happen including any potential LONG-TERM PROBLEMS that might not occur until later in your life.
Any PAIN or DISCOMFORT
PSYCHOSOCIAL and EMOTIONAL SUPPORT, INCLUDING COUNSELING
The AMOUNT OF TIME involved and the possible RESTRICTIONS on your work and activities How the donation process may affect your family or partner .The support and counseling resources available
How WELL-ESTABLISHED each procedure is in the field, including whether it
is generally accepted within the relevant medical community, how much EXPERIENCE [program’s SART name] has with each procedure, training of the professional staff
Your FINANCIAL OBLIGATIONS, WHAT COSTS ARE and ARE NOT COVERED by [program’s SARTname] and/or its INSURANCE, any COSTS that you may be
RESPONSIBLE FOR, Who is responsible for the cost of MEDICAL COMPLICATIONS, including expenses related to any potential LONG-TERM PROBLEMS that might not occur until later in your life Whether you have any potential financial responsibility for certain medical problems that the resulting OFFSPRING might develop later in life Reporting your compensation as TAXABLE INCOME,COMPENSATION ,the amount of compensation, when will be paid, the [Program’s SART name]’s policy on PARTIAL COMPENSATION or FULL PAYMENT.[Program’s SART name]’s policy on your RIGHT TO WITHDRAW CONSENT, all the POSSIBLE USES of your eggs, information about the OUTCOMES of your egg donation, such as whether your donation resulted in a pregnancy or live birth. You should not assume that you will have any PARENTAL RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES to any resulting offspring, although state laws on these issues remain unsettled.The risks involved with MULTIPLE EGG DONATION, your CONFIDENTIALITY. Except as required by law, your physician and [program’s SART name] will not reveal any information about you or your egg donation without your consent, except that they may use specific medical details in professional publications as long as personal information about you is not disclosed. Statistics concerning your egg donation (without your name or personal information) will be included in information that [program’s SART name] provides to the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology and the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Any other use of information about you or your egg donation would require your specific written consent.
CYCLE OF EGG DONATION
I have read this entire consent form and have had the chance to ask any questions I might have about my egg donation. My consent to egg donation is purely voluntary. I understand that my consent applies to only one cycle of egg donation and that I may withdraw my consent at any time before eggs are removed from my body. I have received a copy of this form.
Egg Donor:
_______________________________________
(signature)
Date: _______________________
_______________________________________
(print name)
PHYSICIAN CERTIFICATION: I hereby certify that before the cycle of egg donation
began, and before the egg donor signed this document,
(i) I or the staff at this program have provided the egg donor with information
about the nature, purpose, benefits, risks of, and alternatives to, the proposed
cycle of egg donation; and
(ii) I have met with the egg donor to discuss the information, have given the egg
donor an opportunity to ask any questions, and have fully answered such
questions.
I believe that the egg donor fully understands what I have explained and answered and
has consented to undergo the proposed cycle of egg donation.
Physician Responsible for the
Egg Donor’s Care:
_______________________________________
(signature)
Date: _______________________
_______________________________________
(print name)
http://www.health.ny.gov/regulations/task_force/consumers/docs/informed_consent_for_egg_donors_form.pdf
Here are some highlights of the items that are covered:
Program’s SART Name and Number
∗INFORMED CONSENT FOR EGG DONORS
You are agreeing to undergo a cycle of egg donation at [program’s SART name]. Do
not sign this document if you have not received all of the information listed below or
have not met with your physician to discuss the information. Do not allow the donation
cycle to begin until after you have given your consent by signing this document.
The SCREENING PROCESS
A DESCRIPTION of the PROCEDURES for egg donation.
The RISKS of taking THE DRUGS ie OVARIAN HYPERSTIMULATION – AND information about the SYMPTOMS AND CONSEQUENCES of ovarian hyperstimulation
Your CHANCES of developing ovarian hyperstimulation from taking drugs to induce ovulation
AND the NUMBER OF EGGS the program plans to produce by stimulating your ovaries with drugs.
The process of REMOVING EGGS from your body AND any other problems that might happen including any potential LONG-TERM PROBLEMS that might not occur until later in your life.
Any PAIN or DISCOMFORT
PSYCHOSOCIAL and EMOTIONAL SUPPORT, INCLUDING COUNSELING
The AMOUNT OF TIME involved and the possible RESTRICTIONS on your work and activities How the donation process may affect your family or partner .The support and counseling resources available
How WELL-ESTABLISHED each procedure is in the field, including whether it
is generally accepted within the relevant medical community, how much EXPERIENCE [program’s SART name] has with each procedure, training of the professional staff
Your FINANCIAL OBLIGATIONS, WHAT COSTS ARE and ARE NOT COVERED by [program’s SARTname] and/or its INSURANCE, any COSTS that you may be
RESPONSIBLE FOR, Who is responsible for the cost of MEDICAL COMPLICATIONS, including expenses related to any potential LONG-TERM PROBLEMS that might not occur until later in your life Whether you have any potential financial responsibility for certain medical problems that the resulting OFFSPRING might develop later in life Reporting your compensation as TAXABLE INCOME,COMPENSATION ,the amount of compensation, when will be paid, the [Program’s SART name]’s policy on PARTIAL COMPENSATION or FULL PAYMENT.[Program’s SART name]’s policy on your RIGHT TO WITHDRAW CONSENT, all the POSSIBLE USES of your eggs, information about the OUTCOMES of your egg donation, such as whether your donation resulted in a pregnancy or live birth. You should not assume that you will have any PARENTAL RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES to any resulting offspring, although state laws on these issues remain unsettled.The risks involved with MULTIPLE EGG DONATION, your CONFIDENTIALITY. Except as required by law, your physician and [program’s SART name] will not reveal any information about you or your egg donation without your consent, except that they may use specific medical details in professional publications as long as personal information about you is not disclosed. Statistics concerning your egg donation (without your name or personal information) will be included in information that [program’s SART name] provides to the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology and the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Any other use of information about you or your egg donation would require your specific written consent.
CYCLE OF EGG DONATION
I have read this entire consent form and have had the chance to ask any questions I might have about my egg donation. My consent to egg donation is purely voluntary. I understand that my consent applies to only one cycle of egg donation and that I may withdraw my consent at any time before eggs are removed from my body. I have received a copy of this form.
Egg Donor:
_______________________________________
(signature)
Date: _______________________
_______________________________________
(print name)
PHYSICIAN CERTIFICATION: I hereby certify that before the cycle of egg donation
began, and before the egg donor signed this document,
(i) I or the staff at this program have provided the egg donor with information
about the nature, purpose, benefits, risks of, and alternatives to, the proposed
cycle of egg donation; and
(ii) I have met with the egg donor to discuss the information, have given the egg
donor an opportunity to ask any questions, and have fully answered such
questions.
I believe that the egg donor fully understands what I have explained and answered and
has consented to undergo the proposed cycle of egg donation.
Physician Responsible for the
Egg Donor’s Care:
_______________________________________
(signature)
Date: _______________________
_______________________________________
(print name)
DE Mom Talking With Her ART/ObGyn about Language
I saw my OB/Gyn yesterday for routine check-up. He is moving totally out of OB work and focusing now on what he has long been involved in – ART.
He is the first to ever say DE to me. At first, I was referred to his “partner” at the time, my Dr was only “assisting” in those procedures then.
Now, my Dr has opened an ART office in our mid-western suburb and has announced that he will discontinue the OB practice (he said he has a few babies yet to deliver), but will keep his long-time patients who don’t need those OB services, for GYN treatment. I love the heck out of this guy; and so, I am happy to follow. After all, he did get me successfully through 2 high risk pregnancies.
Yesterday, he was asking about the kids, and telling his nurse asst, that I was his “oldest” mom ever - and still. He actually seemed surprised to hear I was 50 when I delivered my son. We talked about our egg donor, and of the kid’s “casual” familiarity with her. They clearly know that she IS special to us.
I gently corrected him, when he called her their “biological mother”, by saying quietly “genetic”. Hopefully, it will be the LAST correction he ever needs. It’s his total sweetness, that allows my own quick forgiveness. He meant “nothing” wrong. I was a “good” one to make such a language error with.
Debbie, from the original Falling Leaves, Autumn Sunshine, Sunshine Family groups.
DE Moms Talking To Their Kids in 2011
Or talking to your friends, family, doctors ?
Let me know if you'd like to join the conversation and what you'd like to add.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Please contact me directly at SAXEL95@AOL.COM.
Let me know if you'd like to join the conversation and what you'd like to add.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Please contact me directly at SAXEL95@AOL.COM.
Sunday, February 20, 2011
The Family Scholars
From the Family Scholars-the meanest cruelest bloggers out there and this is what the say about posting comments
on their site:
Bloggers and commenters: be rigorous, be powerful, be funny, but don't be mean.
on their site:
Bloggers and commenters: be rigorous, be powerful, be funny, but don't be mean.
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