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Sunday, May 6, 2012
TPPN MEETING MAY 8, 2012
Saturday, April 14, 2012
Drug Tests for Child Support: A Hundred Kinds of Wrong | Des Moines Register Staff Blogs
The first paragraph is very similar to my own story. Its only through donor parenting that I find it necessary to distinguish father from step-father. I truly know who my dad was. If I had to make it sound different before, I would say my first father and then my second father. My first father wanted me to call my second father "Daddy Al". I just called him what he was, Daddy.
http://blogs.desmoinesregister.com/dmr/index.php/2012/04/14/drug-tests-for-child-support-a-hundred-kinds-of-wrong/
Sara Axel
516-967-7430
Saxel95@aol.com
http://blogs.desmoinesregister.com/dmr/index.php/2012/04/14/drug-tests-for-child-support-a-hundred-kinds-of-wrong/
Sara Axel
516-967-7430
Saxel95@aol.com
Monday, February 21, 2011
MODEL OF an Informed Consent DOC for Egg Donors Provided by NY State
This is an abbreviated model form by the NYS DOH TASK FORCE ON HEALTH REGULATIONS after the Ads and before the actual donation takes place.
http://www.health.ny.gov/regulations/task_force/consumers/docs/informed_consent_for_egg_donors_form.pdf
Here are some highlights of the items that are covered:
Program’s SART Name and Number
∗INFORMED CONSENT FOR EGG DONORS
You are agreeing to undergo a cycle of egg donation at [program’s SART name]. Do
not sign this document if you have not received all of the information listed below or
have not met with your physician to discuss the information. Do not allow the donation
cycle to begin until after you have given your consent by signing this document.
The SCREENING PROCESS
A DESCRIPTION of the PROCEDURES for egg donation.
The RISKS of taking THE DRUGS ie OVARIAN HYPERSTIMULATION – AND information about the SYMPTOMS AND CONSEQUENCES of ovarian hyperstimulation
Your CHANCES of developing ovarian hyperstimulation from taking drugs to induce ovulation
AND the NUMBER OF EGGS the program plans to produce by stimulating your ovaries with drugs.
The process of REMOVING EGGS from your body AND any other problems that might happen including any potential LONG-TERM PROBLEMS that might not occur until later in your life.
Any PAIN or DISCOMFORT
PSYCHOSOCIAL and EMOTIONAL SUPPORT, INCLUDING COUNSELING
The AMOUNT OF TIME involved and the possible RESTRICTIONS on your work and activities How the donation process may affect your family or partner .The support and counseling resources available
How WELL-ESTABLISHED each procedure is in the field, including whether it
is generally accepted within the relevant medical community, how much EXPERIENCE [program’s SART name] has with each procedure, training of the professional staff
Your FINANCIAL OBLIGATIONS, WHAT COSTS ARE and ARE NOT COVERED by [program’s SARTname] and/or its INSURANCE, any COSTS that you may be
RESPONSIBLE FOR, Who is responsible for the cost of MEDICAL COMPLICATIONS, including expenses related to any potential LONG-TERM PROBLEMS that might not occur until later in your life Whether you have any potential financial responsibility for certain medical problems that the resulting OFFSPRING might develop later in life Reporting your compensation as TAXABLE INCOME,COMPENSATION ,the amount of compensation, when will be paid, the [Program’s SART name]’s policy on PARTIAL COMPENSATION or FULL PAYMENT.[Program’s SART name]’s policy on your RIGHT TO WITHDRAW CONSENT, all the POSSIBLE USES of your eggs, information about the OUTCOMES of your egg donation, such as whether your donation resulted in a pregnancy or live birth. You should not assume that you will have any PARENTAL RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES to any resulting offspring, although state laws on these issues remain unsettled.The risks involved with MULTIPLE EGG DONATION, your CONFIDENTIALITY. Except as required by law, your physician and [program’s SART name] will not reveal any information about you or your egg donation without your consent, except that they may use specific medical details in professional publications as long as personal information about you is not disclosed. Statistics concerning your egg donation (without your name or personal information) will be included in information that [program’s SART name] provides to the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology and the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Any other use of information about you or your egg donation would require your specific written consent.
CYCLE OF EGG DONATION
I have read this entire consent form and have had the chance to ask any questions I might have about my egg donation. My consent to egg donation is purely voluntary. I understand that my consent applies to only one cycle of egg donation and that I may withdraw my consent at any time before eggs are removed from my body. I have received a copy of this form.
Egg Donor:
_______________________________________
(signature)
Date: _______________________
_______________________________________
(print name)
PHYSICIAN CERTIFICATION: I hereby certify that before the cycle of egg donation
began, and before the egg donor signed this document,
(i) I or the staff at this program have provided the egg donor with information
about the nature, purpose, benefits, risks of, and alternatives to, the proposed
cycle of egg donation; and
(ii) I have met with the egg donor to discuss the information, have given the egg
donor an opportunity to ask any questions, and have fully answered such
questions.
I believe that the egg donor fully understands what I have explained and answered and
has consented to undergo the proposed cycle of egg donation.
Physician Responsible for the
Egg Donor’s Care:
_______________________________________
(signature)
Date: _______________________
_______________________________________
(print name)
http://www.health.ny.gov/regulations/task_force/consumers/docs/informed_consent_for_egg_donors_form.pdf
Here are some highlights of the items that are covered:
Program’s SART Name and Number
∗INFORMED CONSENT FOR EGG DONORS
You are agreeing to undergo a cycle of egg donation at [program’s SART name]. Do
not sign this document if you have not received all of the information listed below or
have not met with your physician to discuss the information. Do not allow the donation
cycle to begin until after you have given your consent by signing this document.
The SCREENING PROCESS
A DESCRIPTION of the PROCEDURES for egg donation.
The RISKS of taking THE DRUGS ie OVARIAN HYPERSTIMULATION – AND information about the SYMPTOMS AND CONSEQUENCES of ovarian hyperstimulation
Your CHANCES of developing ovarian hyperstimulation from taking drugs to induce ovulation
AND the NUMBER OF EGGS the program plans to produce by stimulating your ovaries with drugs.
The process of REMOVING EGGS from your body AND any other problems that might happen including any potential LONG-TERM PROBLEMS that might not occur until later in your life.
Any PAIN or DISCOMFORT
PSYCHOSOCIAL and EMOTIONAL SUPPORT, INCLUDING COUNSELING
The AMOUNT OF TIME involved and the possible RESTRICTIONS on your work and activities How the donation process may affect your family or partner .The support and counseling resources available
How WELL-ESTABLISHED each procedure is in the field, including whether it
is generally accepted within the relevant medical community, how much EXPERIENCE [program’s SART name] has with each procedure, training of the professional staff
Your FINANCIAL OBLIGATIONS, WHAT COSTS ARE and ARE NOT COVERED by [program’s SARTname] and/or its INSURANCE, any COSTS that you may be
RESPONSIBLE FOR, Who is responsible for the cost of MEDICAL COMPLICATIONS, including expenses related to any potential LONG-TERM PROBLEMS that might not occur until later in your life Whether you have any potential financial responsibility for certain medical problems that the resulting OFFSPRING might develop later in life Reporting your compensation as TAXABLE INCOME,COMPENSATION ,the amount of compensation, when will be paid, the [Program’s SART name]’s policy on PARTIAL COMPENSATION or FULL PAYMENT.[Program’s SART name]’s policy on your RIGHT TO WITHDRAW CONSENT, all the POSSIBLE USES of your eggs, information about the OUTCOMES of your egg donation, such as whether your donation resulted in a pregnancy or live birth. You should not assume that you will have any PARENTAL RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES to any resulting offspring, although state laws on these issues remain unsettled.The risks involved with MULTIPLE EGG DONATION, your CONFIDENTIALITY. Except as required by law, your physician and [program’s SART name] will not reveal any information about you or your egg donation without your consent, except that they may use specific medical details in professional publications as long as personal information about you is not disclosed. Statistics concerning your egg donation (without your name or personal information) will be included in information that [program’s SART name] provides to the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology and the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Any other use of information about you or your egg donation would require your specific written consent.
CYCLE OF EGG DONATION
I have read this entire consent form and have had the chance to ask any questions I might have about my egg donation. My consent to egg donation is purely voluntary. I understand that my consent applies to only one cycle of egg donation and that I may withdraw my consent at any time before eggs are removed from my body. I have received a copy of this form.
Egg Donor:
_______________________________________
(signature)
Date: _______________________
_______________________________________
(print name)
PHYSICIAN CERTIFICATION: I hereby certify that before the cycle of egg donation
began, and before the egg donor signed this document,
(i) I or the staff at this program have provided the egg donor with information
about the nature, purpose, benefits, risks of, and alternatives to, the proposed
cycle of egg donation; and
(ii) I have met with the egg donor to discuss the information, have given the egg
donor an opportunity to ask any questions, and have fully answered such
questions.
I believe that the egg donor fully understands what I have explained and answered and
has consented to undergo the proposed cycle of egg donation.
Physician Responsible for the
Egg Donor’s Care:
_______________________________________
(signature)
Date: _______________________
_______________________________________
(print name)
Saturday, October 9, 2010
Conversation with Diane Ehrensaft October 10, 2010
I've been talking with Diane Ehrensaft (author of "Mommies, Daddies, Donors, Suggogates") about Birth Others, Genetic Others, ages and stages of disclosure (see post from our NYC Gathering Womens Dinner in January with Diane where we discussed ages and stages of disclosure).
Diane coined the term "birth other"--which includes both donors and surrogates/gestational carriers (who are not genetically related) . My term for egg donors is "genetic others" since they didnt do the birthing.
The "young scientists" are the young school age kids who are interested in how things work rather than the complicated psychological implications. That comes later.
Diane strongly recommends having someone talk to classrooms and train teachers so that the children from assisted reproductive families do not feel like outliers (MY BIGGEST ISSUE AROUND THIS) and the issues apply to all children and the different ways of building families.
All parenthood involves loss-loss of nonparenthood life, loss of sleep, loss of fantasies as they are are replaced by the real child.
For those parents who have dealt with fertility problems, there may be the loss of having a genetically related child. For those parents missing a parent to have a baby with, there may be a feeling of a missing parent, who a donor cannot be. As long as people know it comes with the territory, they don't have to sweep the feelings under the rug.
What Diane wants parents to know is
1) that they will creatively draw their own family map and then navigate within it; there is no one boiler plate; 2) dishonesty never pays; 3) authenticity does; 4) at the same time, there can be tiers of disclosure and layers of privacy; 5) children are incredibly adaptable organisms, and all children have something to deal with; a birth history that involved assisted reproductive technology is one of those things to deal with, and can be done with pride and good feeling, as long as parents leave room for the full gamut of their children's feelings (and their own); 6) at the time, parents should carve out separate space to work through their own raw feelings, if they surface, so that what reaches the child are metabolized and empathic responses, rather than torn or conflicted ones.
Diane coined the term "birth other"--which includes both donors and surrogates/gestational carriers (who are not genetically related) . My term for egg donors is "genetic others" since they didnt do the birthing.
The "young scientists" are the young school age kids who are interested in how things work rather than the complicated psychological implications. That comes later.
Diane strongly recommends having someone talk to classrooms and train teachers so that the children from assisted reproductive families do not feel like outliers (MY BIGGEST ISSUE AROUND THIS) and the issues apply to all children and the different ways of building families.
All parenthood involves loss-loss of nonparenthood life, loss of sleep, loss of fantasies as they are are replaced by the real child.
For those parents who have dealt with fertility problems, there may be the loss of having a genetically related child. For those parents missing a parent to have a baby with, there may be a feeling of a missing parent, who a donor cannot be. As long as people know it comes with the territory, they don't have to sweep the feelings under the rug.
What Diane wants parents to know is
1) that they will creatively draw their own family map and then navigate within it; there is no one boiler plate; 2) dishonesty never pays; 3) authenticity does; 4) at the same time, there can be tiers of disclosure and layers of privacy; 5) children are incredibly adaptable organisms, and all children have something to deal with; a birth history that involved assisted reproductive technology is one of those things to deal with, and can be done with pride and good feeling, as long as parents leave room for the full gamut of their children's feelings (and their own); 6) at the time, parents should carve out separate space to work through their own raw feelings, if they surface, so that what reaches the child are metabolized and empathic responses, rather than torn or conflicted ones.
Thursday, October 7, 2010
Link To Radio Show October 7, 2010
Thanks again to Reproductive and Family Lawyer Theresa Erickson of Conceptual Options and Ericksonlaw.com, Marna Gatlin of PVED.org and Theresa's daughter Megan Erickson, for todays Radio Show on Voice America. I was honored to be part of this innovative and educational series happening on Voice America.
We are very fortunate to have professionals like Theresa and Marna (and Theresa's other guest experts) in the field of Third Party Family Building.
The show Marna and I were on together was on the topic of Disclosure. Marna shares with us her insights on how she came up with new terminology, her approach with her own family, and all the services provided and being developed at PVED.org.
Megan Erickson spoke about her experience having a Mom who has been an egg donor and her feelings about having genetic others in her own life growing up and now as the young woman Theresa can be so proud of.
http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1767
We are very fortunate to have professionals like Theresa and Marna (and Theresa's other guest experts) in the field of Third Party Family Building.
The show Marna and I were on together was on the topic of Disclosure. Marna shares with us her insights on how she came up with new terminology, her approach with her own family, and all the services provided and being developed at PVED.org.
Megan Erickson spoke about her experience having a Mom who has been an egg donor and her feelings about having genetic others in her own life growing up and now as the young woman Theresa can be so proud of.
http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1767
Saturday, October 2, 2010
October 7 Radio Show http://www.ericksonlaw.net/surrogacy-law-radio
The Surrogacy Lawyer Radio Program- Thursday at 11am PDT
October 7, Theresa Erickson will interview her guests (Sara, Marna and Megan) about disclosure for both donor-conceived children and (non-donor conceived) children of egg donors
Prospective parents who utilize third party reproductive technologies like egg donation must answer many questions as they move through the decision-making process. How should they choose an egg donor? Should the donation be known or anonymous? If, when and how should they disclose information to their child and others? Additionally, egg donors need to consider whom they will tell about their donation, especially their current or future children.
In the second part of a two-part series on donor disclosure, Theresa Erickson will discuss these and other questions on The Surrogacy Lawyer: Your Guide to IVF and Third Party Reproduction in an episode entitled “The Two Sides of Donor Disclosure,” that will air on Thursday, October 7 at 11AM PST/2PM EST on Voice America.
Surrogacy lawyer, author and radio host Theresa Erickson will be interviewing Marna Gatlin, founder and CEO of Parents Via Egg Donation (PVED); Sara Axel, founder of the NYC Gathering and a parent of twin six-year-old girls conceived through egg donation; and Megan Erickson, law student and Theresa Erickson’s daughter.
“Disclosure often is the elephant in the room,“ says attorney Erickson. “All parties know it is important, but also realize it is one of the hardest issues to address. Intended parents need to wrestle with determining whom should they tell, what information their children need to know and when they should learn it. Then there is the other side of the coin of how the egg donor should handle disclosure. As a former egg donor, I have had this conversation with my children, one of whom will relay her feelings about this.”
http://www.ericksonlaw.net/surrogacy-law-radio
October 7, Theresa Erickson will interview her guests (Sara, Marna and Megan) about disclosure for both donor-conceived children and (non-donor conceived) children of egg donors
Prospective parents who utilize third party reproductive technologies like egg donation must answer many questions as they move through the decision-making process. How should they choose an egg donor? Should the donation be known or anonymous? If, when and how should they disclose information to their child and others? Additionally, egg donors need to consider whom they will tell about their donation, especially their current or future children.
In the second part of a two-part series on donor disclosure, Theresa Erickson will discuss these and other questions on The Surrogacy Lawyer: Your Guide to IVF and Third Party Reproduction in an episode entitled “The Two Sides of Donor Disclosure,” that will air on Thursday, October 7 at 11AM PST/2PM EST on Voice America.
Surrogacy lawyer, author and radio host Theresa Erickson will be interviewing Marna Gatlin, founder and CEO of Parents Via Egg Donation (PVED); Sara Axel, founder of the NYC Gathering and a parent of twin six-year-old girls conceived through egg donation; and Megan Erickson, law student and Theresa Erickson’s daughter.
“Disclosure often is the elephant in the room,“ says attorney Erickson. “All parties know it is important, but also realize it is one of the hardest issues to address. Intended parents need to wrestle with determining whom should they tell, what information their children need to know and when they should learn it. Then there is the other side of the coin of how the egg donor should handle disclosure. As a former egg donor, I have had this conversation with my children, one of whom will relay her feelings about this.”
http://www.ericksonlaw.net/surrogacy-law-radio
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