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Monday, May 30, 2011

From Wendy Kramer of The Donor Sibling Registry: Nature Magazine. May 27, 2011. Canadian court bans anonymous sperm and egg donation

Nature Magazine. May 27, 2011. Canadian court bans anonymous sperm and egg 

This quote from the ASRM really caught my attention:

But the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM), an advisory and
advocacy group for the American fertility industry, says it will strongly oppose
any move to ban anonymous donations. "We think that people ought to be able to
build their families the way they see fit," says Sean Tipton, a spokesperson for
the ASRM. "And you don't change the rules in the middle of the game."

When will the ASRM begin to address the needs and the rights of those created 
from gamete donation? 
When will it address the rights of both the recipients and the gamete donors to 
be adequately counseled and educated at the front door, so that they can make 
fully educated decisions about open vs. anonymous donation?
When will it address the dire need for accurate record keeping and 
sharing/updating of medical information for families created via gamete 
donation?  How many groups of  50, 70 and more than a hundred half siblings 
will be formed before there is some sort of oversight installed?

The full article:

Wendy Kramer

"There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One is 
roots; the other wings."- Hodding Carter

Saturday, May 28, 2011

DONOR PARENTING STUDY AT THE Center for Attachment Research at the New School for Social Research


The Center for Attachment Research at the New School is engaged in the application of attachment theory to clinical and developmental research questions concerning child, parent, and family development.

We are about to begin a new line of research and would like to invite you and your family to become involved. The study intends to explore child and family development in a group of children who were conceived through assisted reproduction.  There is little known about the emotional and social development of children conceived through assisted reproduction, and we are searching for participants to help us build knowledge in the hopes of benefitting those who may utilize assisted reproduction the future.

We are specifically looking at the relationship between parents and their six to eight year old children who were conceived through egg donation.  This study involves one visit to our Child Development facility at the Center for Attachment Research at the New School for Social Research at 80 Fifth Avenue in New York City.  As part of this study, families would participate in a series of assessments that will focus on aspects of child development and the parent-child relationship. All of these assessments have been specifically designed to be of interest to the children and the families. We are especially focused on learning from you by using state of the art measures that will help us better understand the strengths and challenges unique to each family.

In return for contributing to a greater understanding of parent and child relationships following assisted reproduction, parents will receive a DVD highlighting their experience with their child at the Center for Attachment Research.

For more information about the study please contact Jenna Slutsky at or 917.750.0692.

For more information about the Center for Attachment Research contact M. Steele (, OR visit the following website:

Thursday, May 26, 2011

books for parenting after infertility |  Tammy Troute-Wood

Let me know what you think. Feel free to send me any reviews,for private discussion or for posting here on the blog. Best to all,

Sara Axel

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Wednesday, May 25, 2011





Study Being Run At The Center for Attachment Research in NYC

I am trying to get more info on this ad sent to me by friend and  NYC Gathering group 
member. If you have any details or have heard about this please contact me at Will keep you posted.... 
***PARENTS OF KIDS AGES 6-8 years*** If you used donor insemination or egg donation to start or build your family, please keep reading! We are running a cutting-edge study this year at the Center for Attachment Research in NYC, working with some of the leading 
researchers in Attachment Theory and new family form research. The study focuses on parent-child relationships and childhood development. The session takes about 2-3 hours and includes a range of fun and interesting play activities for you and your child. 
The study will be done at 80 Fifth Avenue 
(14th street) in NYC.You can learn more about us at

Saturday, May 21, 2011

NYU Press - Test Tube Families

NYU Press - Test Tube Families

FROM NYU PRESS : Test Tube Families Why the Fertility Market Needs Legal Regulation Naomi R. Cahn

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Test Tube Families
Why the Fertility Market Needs Legal Regulation
Naomi R. Cahn
288 pages
1 illustration
January, 2009
ISBN: 9780814716823
Table of Contents
$35.00 Cloth
click here for exam copies

“Professor Cahn proposes some useful reforms. Her proposals include legal consistency, particularly over the identity of donor conceived children and the rights of parents; transparency; a requirement to test gametes for serious genetic conditions; the provision of counseling to ‘consumers’; and restrictions on the number of donations by any one donor.”
-Bio News

“In her historical and contemporary analysis of legal regulation in each of these areas, she weaves erudite yet accessible translations of law, vivid depictions of cases, and personal insights to portray an industry critically in need of oversight.”
-New England Journal of Medicine

“This thoughtful and compelling book unveils the complexities of the gamete industry . . . Cahn writes in a manner that is engaging, entertaining and, to be honest, transforming.”
-Adoption Quarterly

“In her careful and detailed analysis, Cahn builds a lawyerly case for comprehensive federal and state laws governing infertility treatment and establishing the legal rights and obligations of everyone involved in the process.”
-Bitch Magazine

“Cahn’s case for a uniform, federal legal code is compelling and vivid.”
-Publishers Weekly

“In describing the lengths to which people will go in order to produce a biological child, Cahn is both respectful of this very human desire and sensitive to the ethical and legal issues that result . . . That she also writes in accessible prose makes this a valuable text.”

“Cahn argues that a distinction can be made, albeit very carefully, between reproductive privacy and public-health concerns.”
-Peggy Orenstein, The New York Times

“I would highly recommend this book as a valuable contribution to the existing literature on donor conception issues. Cahn provides thorough and balanced insights into the paradoxes between the science, the business, the humanity and the legalities of the donor conception industry. This book will be important for those working in the mental health or legal arenas of infertility. For parents, parents-to-be, donors and the donor conceived, this will be a valuable resource for understanding these legal complexities.”
-Wendy Kramer, Cofounder and Director of the Donor Sibling Registry

"Cahn explores the relationships that underpin artificial reproductive technology: parenting, donating, and becoming (those who are the children brought to life through this process). . . . Much about assisted reproduction are the relationships that are fostered and challenged by the use of the technology, whether donor to potential parent, potential parent to state, surrogate to intended mother, or embryo to clinic, and after it is all ‘done,’ child to parent.”
-Michele Goodwin, author of Black Markets: The Supply and Demand of Body Parts

“Cahn’s new book provides a comprehensive critique of the collective practices that gather under the rubric of assisted reproductive technologies. Injecting both professional and personal insights, Cahn’s advocacy for increased regulation and decreased secrecy within the behemoth infertility industry are delivered with empirical assuredness and linguistic eloquence. At last, an informed and erudite look at family formation whose preferred solutions to vexing concerns will have wide appeal in a field not traditionally known for consensus.”
-Judith Daar, author of Reproductive Technologies and the Law

“A much-needed, thorough, and fair-minded account of the legal history around ART and of the legal way forward for all our evolving families. As our society embraces the opportunities that fertility technology offers, Cahn makes sense of the complex field of issues that emerge and provides a feminist perspective on how best to define and protect the interests of gamete donors, of parents and of children.”
-Elizabeth Gregory, author of Ready: Why Women Are Embracing the New Later Motherhood

“Cahn’s case for a uniform, federal legal code is compelling and vivid.”
-Publishers Weekly Web Exclusive

Test Tube Families makes an important contribution to the discourse about new ways of making families and the technology that facilitates family formation. Cahn lays out salient considerations for regulation of a still burgeoning field, which take into account the fluidity of technology, politics, and cultural attitudes.”
-The Journal Of Clinical Investigation

Test Tube Families provides a legally and personally informed account of the complex and difficult issues surrounding new reproductive technologies. . .It Balances Cahn’s comprehensive look at the legal history and the current laws governing artificial reproductive technology with a thorough analysis of the business and cultural issues that emerge from the technology.”
-Law Library Journal

Test Tube Families proposes sweeping legal reforms that would empower the federal government to mandate ART procedures. . .you might be cheered by the hope that regulating the ART industry might at least help prevent more such reality TV shows.”
-California Lawyer

Sunday, May 15, 2011



Thought you might be interested in sharing the link to yesterday's radio show with your group members. Patricia Mendell provided lots of great information about the challenges of donor disclosure. As you probably know, she and Jean Benward wrote some excellent fact sheets on the subject for The AFA. 
Here is the link: 

The Huffington Post 5.15.11, 8 Fertility Misconceptions

SAXEL has shared an article with you on The Huffington Post:
8 Fertility Misconceptions

Yourfertilitydeal Weekly E-Mail

A session with Fertility Advocate Pamela Madsen and more offers at:

Saturday, May 14, 2011

Resemblance Talk

Let me start by saying my beliefs about privacy vs secrecy have not changed- I believe they are the same. So here are some questions.

If I don't feel like talking about it, am I lying by omission? What's the difference between not feeling like talking about it and just not feeling safe with the person I'm not sharing it with. Or do I need to have a reason for not sharing in order to validate that I'm not in fact actively hiding something.

If I just nod or casually agree when someone says,so you were just the incubator and they haven't already guessed or heard through the grapevine that my kids were conceived via de, am I keeping a secret? Does this mean I am really ashamed if I don't "come out" every time?